Legalizing my name.

I don’t like current legal name; it has since become my (second) deadname. My family didn’t want me to initially masculinize my name to Charles, so I went with “Cai”.

That was 5 years ago. Time and again the regret popped up, and I would try to do something about it. People stole my username when I deactivated some accounts. Others gave me a hard time with changing usernames back and forth. I tried but failed a prior time to legalize my preferred nam Charles. I’m just not paying $3k to use the proper form of my name as a .com.

Legal forms spread out.
Filling out (again!) for my alias to legally be my name.

Everywhere you file for a name change is different, whether by country, even by US state. Where I live, it’s easy-ish, just pricey, but the total cost (last time for me it was somewhere north of $750 between legal and notice fees) is broken up between steps. Since courthouses are closed to the general public, I mailed everything from the local post office.

Funny how it is, using a debit card which bears my deadname, to pay for my preferred one.

So, in the coming weeks, I can finally pay for each step, and correct this massive, grave error. I still insist on people who elect to transition to choose a new name and legalize it before fully transitioning, as the paperwork will otherwise be a headache with preferred vs dead names. At the very least, if informed consent or gender identity laws are not present in your area, visit a gender therapist who can write that letter for the judge if you choose a name that’s not unisex, to minimize negation of a name change.

And as my name change furthers, I’ll update you.

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